“Self-love is one of the best things you can do for yourself. However, trauma changes things once we’re traumatized. Any sort of Trauma we may experience leaves us so empty. Its hard to feel confident and self-worth. Its hard to love who you once were before the event took over your life. Taking care of “you” is a challenge for many. Trauma, assult, pain takes that from you. If we were once posotive, bubbly people and then we are victimized\traumatized- This can pose great challenges.
Don’t compare your healing with others. Try not to worry about what others think of you…because they have no clue of what you endured. And how “strong” you really are. There are ways and skills you can use to help you. Learn about “you”. Learn new things about “you”. Take gentle time on yourself. Loving yourself after Trauma that took a huge chunk of you can be difficult. Take your time…breathe….It’s alright…because you’re trying to heal and begin to piece yourself back together. Even if what you went through was a long time ago…this article WILL help you…! 💜
You’re trying to begin a new again.”
What does this mean?
This means assessing the difficulties you have been through, accepting them, and learning how to adapt. The most you can do after any Trauma is adapt because you certainly can’t go back. Even if you find that you feel you are empty and never good enough, believe me- you are enough! Trauma feels like it takes our lives over. But loving yourself after your horrific experience does not mean “leaving” yourself; It does not mean giving up, giving in, or giving yourself away. Don’t keep yourself locked up inside, or separated from the world. You will never be the same after surviving Trauma. And while some may find that to be a curse, consider it a blessing because you have battle wounds! You have scars that have purpose, that have meaning…you have stories flowing through your veins! Stories you can “share” with the rest of the world! You can be someone else’s light!
1.) Do not hide yourself or your Trauma for others, but embrace it.
You will see yourself as an entirely different person. You’re not the same. People that you meet may wonder why you’re guarded. Or why you act the way that you do. This isn’t a reflection of you- So don’t let this hurt you. It just takes time. You may not “love others” as easily as they may love you and that’s alright…:) Don’t hide your soul. Embrace you. Embrace your struggles. Embrace who YOU ARE! You are a fighter for a reason! And you CAN help others heal too, when you’re ready. Keep in mind also that you may choose to only have a “few” friends. You may be scared to keep friends close. You may not have many friends, and its perfectly alright. Do you have a hard time expressing your feelings? I still do myself. Its very difficult. I hate trying to express my feelings to someone personally. You may feel the same…and its alright…💜
Learn to love yourself gently…take your time. Only you know the best way to protect yourself. However, do not “overprotect” yourself. You NEED to allow yourself to have the Love of others. Committ to yourself and your healing. Remember, you ARE A FIGHTER…! You fought your way through agony and terror. Be proud of that! 🙂 Embrace you! Embrace your healing and recovery.
2.) Do not leave yourself.
Learning to love yourself is about finding happiness despite Trauma.
You will not be open as you once were. You will find that you may struggle with Anxiety and Depression-finding “Happiness after darkness” is not easy as a sunrise. It doesn’t happen casually overnight. It will take you many cold winters and it will take you many cold evenings to withdraw negative feelings from within yourself. “That is okay”…
Removing negativity=pure happiness. “Once the sun does rise and the moon no longer feels eerie, when the birds suddenly start chirping and the sunset doesn’t feel as cold in the winter, that is when you will find happiness.”
Just know it will take time. Use this time to create Art, to better yourself, to work through your pain. Do anything that will let you exude those feelings elsewhere, and when you find such happiness, do not let it go…!
“Loving yourself after heartbreak and trauma is a new beginning to love others. Its taking these emotions, these heartbreaks, the physical pain of endless nights of tears, and then channeling this into loving someone else.”
3.) Learn to express your emotions.
Learn to express your emotions. Learn to “love” others. This world cannot be a better place without you, and you must share everything you are with the world. Do not feel that you are all alone because you are definitely not alone!
“Learning to love yourself after such trauma is learning that bad can be what makes the world good. Its learning that the world would not be the same without what you have been through. You are strong. Turn your pain into power.” -Neesa
Now, you may feel like you’re the only one who has been through what you have. But I assure you- you are “not” alone! You are not alone in your experiences. You’re learning how to connect, how to inspire, and how to still hope for a better world. And how to heal every step of the way. You are “everything” that makes this world good.
You are going to be okay…
You will learn to love who you are- even despite trauma!